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Self-Help Messiah Dale Carnegie [1888-1955]
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Dale Carnegie was born in 1888, Maryville, Missouri, USA and was educated at Warrensburg State Teachers College. As a salesman and aspiring actor, he traveled to New York and began taking 'public-speaking' classes for adults at the YMCA.
In 1912, the world famous Carnegie Course in Effective Speaking and Human Relations was born. He authored several bestsellers, including, “How to Win Friends and Influence People”, and “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living.” Over 50 million copies of Mr. Carnegie's books have been printed and published in scores of languages.
Dale Carnegie's Summary of
How to Stop Worrying and Start Living
Part 1: Fundamental facts you should know about worry
- Live in "day-tight
compartments."
- Ask yourself,
"What is the worst that can possibly happen if I can't solve my
problem?
- Prepare
yourself mentally to accept the worst--if necessary.
- Then calmly try
to improve upon the worst--which you have already mentally agreed to
accept.
- Remind yourself
of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of your health.
Part 2: Basic techniques in analyzing worry
- Get the facts.
- After carefully
weighing all the facts, come to a decision.
- Once a decision
is carefully reached, get busy carrying out your decision.
- When you worry about a problem, write out answers for the following questions:
- What is the
problem?
- What is the
cause of the problem?
- What are all
possible solutions?
- What is the
best solution?
Part 3: How to break the worry habit before it breaks you
- Crowd worry out
of your mind by keeping busy.
- Don't fuss about
trifles.
- Ask yourself: "What are the odds
against this thing's happening at all?"
- Co-operate with
the inevitable. Say to yourself: "It is so; it cannot be otherwise."
- Decide just how much anxiety
a thing may be worth--and refuse to give it anymore.
- Let the past
bury its dead. Don't saw sawdust.
Part 4: 7 ways to cultivate a mental attitude that will bring you peace &
happiness
- Fill the mind with thoughts of peace, courage, health, and hope.
- Never waste a minute thinking about people you don't like.
- Instead of
worrying about ingratitude, expect it.
- Remember
that the only way to find happiness is not to expect gratitude--but to
give for the joy of giving.
- Remember
that gratitude is a "cultivated" trait and train.
- Count your
blessings--not your troubles!
- Do not
imitate others. Find yourself and be yourself.
- When fate hands out a lemon, make a lemonade.
- Do good to others.
"When you are good to others, you are best to yourself."
- Prayer
- Unjust criticism
is often a disguised compliment. No one ever kicks a dead dog.
- Do the very best
you can; and keep out of the rain of criticism.
- Keep a
record of the fool things you have done and criticize yourself.
- Rest before you
get tired.
- Learn to relax at
your work.
- Learn to relax
at home.
- Apply these four
good workings habits:
- Clear your desk
of all papers except those relating to the immediate problem at hand.
- Do things in
the order of their importance.
- When you face a
problem, solve it then and there if you have the facts to make a
decision.
- Learn to
organize, deputize, and supervise.
- To prevent worry
and fatigue, put enthusiasm into your work.
- Remember, no one
was ever killed by lack of sleep. It is worrying about insomnia that does
the damage--not the insomnia.
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